When considering the decisions we make in our relationships with others — beginning or ending them — we need to make them with wisdom. These decisions are often influenced by a few variables — intellectual, physical, emotional, etc. Yet some decisions to enter a relationship are made solely on the basis of one variable — physical. Though a good decision can be made using one physical variable (in cold weather we wisely decide to wear warm clothes), it would be unwise to decide to enter marriage based solely on the same (one’s “good looks”).
Adding another variable, decisions to enter relationships may be made using emotions (“He or she makes me feel good.” or “It just feels right”). But because human emotions have ebbs and flows, highs and lows, and are not constant but change or pass in time, they are not an appropriate basis for making a wise decision either. Many counselors have heard the emotional reason for divorce: “My spouse no longer makes me feel happy.” Still others add intellectual variables in an effort to make decisions regarding relationships; weighing carefully and rationally finances, compatibility of personalities, timing, etc. They conclude with “wis
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